A mum states her case

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After a harrowing experience at the vet last week, I stumbled home and collapsed into an emotional heap. My partner took one look at me and asked if I was okay. I shook my head steadily, gathering my thoughts.

An intentional year seeking health brought profound learnings.

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‘Almost everything will work again if you unplug it for a few minutes, including you,’ according to Anne Lamott.

Anecdote | Perspective

A dog lover’s epiphany

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The very qualities that made me feel I could be a calm, Stoic first time cat parent have made me an obsessive, submissive wreck of a mother. My days are spent anticipating their needs and desperately trying to earn their love.

Building muscle not only for your physical health, but your brain health too.

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It is rare that an Instagram post has me sitting up in my chair feeling like I need to make a change.

Equipped with some kindness, I am making changes.

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I have always been wary of ‘self-love’ mottos, embracing my low self-esteem and rejecting calls for more self assurance. It became my personal brand, no harm to myself and a non-threatening gift to my family and friends. But over time, I noticed two destructive patterns:

  • As I bought into my negative self-talk, I let opportunities pass, thinking they were beyond me.
  • I was using self deprecation to side step accountability and avoid the challenge of self improvement. To my mind then, I was making a mockery of myself to the world; wasn’t that responsibility enough?

Some friends cared enough to…

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The power of realizing enough is enough.

Raised by a dynamic powerhouse of a mother, my siblings and I became accustomed to hearing her daily mantra, “Hard work always prevails!”. My mother trained as a nurse and often held down more than one job at a time to ensure she gave us as many opportunities as she could.

It’s toning my body, while toughening my mind.

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Running never interested me in my early days and it still doesn’t now in my late 40s, but I have discovered benefits that far outweigh my displeasure.

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A list of foods proven to benefit your overall strength and well-being.

When I was 11 years old, my mum and I were waiting at the checkout line of a popular pharmacy in South Africa, to pay for our vitamins. Just as we approached the counter, we paused to the sound of a frail voice from the back of the queue. An aged man with a distinguished colonial English accent summoned, ‘what is the natural herbal remedy for memory loss?’ The pharmacist answered in an unsurprised voice, ‘Gingko Biloba, sir’. A minute and a half later, the same voice with the same style came back and recited the question in the same…

Manage your days to reclaim your nights.

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My sleep troubles began in my early thirties. Nothing significant had happened beyond life’s normal trials and tribulations, so I ignored the newly developed habit and hoped it would pass. I was living in Spain when the sleep deprivation got out of hand, and I explored a range of local ‘treatments’. Whether with an extra glass of wine at night, a puff of my flatmate’s cannabis ‘nightcap’ or a mild sedative, I got through my 30s with sleep in the red.

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Don’t use work as the barometer for ‘worth’.

As a young, eager to impress, marketing executive in my early twenties, I recall my surprise when a senior manager announced he has never worked on a Sunday and never intends to.


Storyteller, ‘midlifer’, underdog & guinea pig for second half well-being. Looking to build better physical, mental & emotional strength.

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